Pastors
Don't go it alone!
My father was a senior pastor for over 40 years. After taking a new church, in a new town, my father became friends with the neighbor across the street. He really enjoyed time with him. They would, "solve the world's problems together." My dad never had a friendship like this before. This guy was about 10 years older than my dad, so they had a sort of mentoring friendship together. I hadn't seen my dad in such good spirits in, well, never. So what is the problem with that, right? Well, the problem is, the man didn't go to church, and my dad really liked it that way. To my dad, this coaching, encouraging friendship was a God send. I actually overheard my father say to my mother one day that he didn't want to invite him to church because he would lose the dynamics of this beautiful friendship. He knew that when his friend came to church he would hold the same position as everyone else in the church and that would change everything for him.
Now that was then, and this is now, but I'm wondering if things have changed much.
If you have feelings like this, you're not alone. Feeling abandoned and sometimes desperate for a good friendship can crush you. Maybe your ok today, maybe you have it all together. If that's true, I would thank God right now, because that is not the norm. Today's society seems to expect more from us than ever before. If you are in need of some encouragement, please prayerfully consider taking me up on a free 30 minute call. You can tell me how you are feeling and what you're facing. I will listen to you, without judgement and without shame. I do not record any of my sessions and I honor all my clients with complete privacy. You need a friend in your corner, a strong support that will pray with you, listen to you and hold you accountable until you reach success. Listen, I was a PK all my childhood. I understand what you're going through. I understand how your kids feel. I was right there in their shoes. I have been in leadership and have seen a lot of lonely leaders. It's not healthy and you need support. In fact, part of what I do, is help you build a strong support system, with friends you know and trust. Once you have this, you can help create this for all your staff.
As we face more and more struggles in these end times, we all need a strong support system, right down to the last man in your pew.
Step one, I have you and your wife fill out a marriage questionnaire online. Each of you will answer your own list of questions and send them in. It will take you less than an hour. Prepare and Enrich will then send me a full diagnostic report. From that report, I'll be able to see and share where you and your wife are at, on several different areas. Then, I will start working with the husband, one on one. Eventually we will bring in your wife, but men need a lot more help to begin with. Let me give you a little insight as to why. You see, God designed men's brains to react and fix things with physical action. That is why we are the providers and protectors of our loved ones. It's our job. From birth and through adolescence the female brain is covered with other hormones that create a very different brain, one that is primarily designed for emotional response and is relationally focused. God designed women to be nurturing, caring, and loving. Women have prebuilt communication skills, which makes it a whole lot easier for them to pick this stuff up. Let's face it men, we need a lot more help than we let on. I'll share much more in our sessions together, but you need to set up an appointment to meet me first.
Please email me at your earliest convenience. lifecoachpoul@gmail.com
